There are a lot of parent who have the view that children grow up whether anybody looks after them or not, though they do but tell me what type of adult do such children become thereafter? They become a shame to their parent, nuisance to the community and the society at large, they are the prostitutes we see all about in our streets, vandals, hoodlums, hooligans, street boys and the likes, and if any should die in such a condition he spent the rest of his life eternally in hell. As a good parent you are expected to train up your child in a responsible way so that he can become a responsible person in the later future. God himself will not spare any parent who neglects the training of his or her children.
Parents who want their children to be responsible ones should be available and active for them and the work of child training must commence right from the time they were given birth to, you are expected to feed them with balance diet, show love and affection to them, bath and cloth them appropriately and try to attend to all their needs, you’re to labor laboriously in order to ensure an all round development for your child.
In the training of your child don’t just play the role of a nurse, also be a teacher, counsellor and a guide, teach him the virtues of love, temperance, respect for others, patience, orderliness, comportment, self-control and also self-denial, when the child starts growing up accrue him responsibilities that is appropriate for his or her age while you monitor, instruct, and correct him when necessary.
One very important aspect you have to instill in your child is the fear for God, this is of utmost importance, tell him in a clear language that children needs the savior for them to be free from the curse of this world and to avoid eternal damnation in hell fire, prove to him the way of life by living an exemplary life and you must also maintain a close relationship with God Almighty because this is the basic requirement you need to be a good parent and to have a good mother’s heart.
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Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
It’s in Your Hand
You as a parent must do all what it take to bring up your child in a Godly way; majority of the evils prevalent in our society today is as result of poor handling and upbringing of the children by their parent.
The behavior and the way of life of children of nowadays is nothing to write home about, what is actually the major cause of our children who walk away half-naked on our streets today, the rudeness and the incorrigible lifestyle adopted by our children today are as a result of what? They have lost all sense of decency and respectability. All these actually emerge from our various homes. All these are borne as a result of poor training of the children by their parent and we can even see some parent indulging in such practices. The blind cannot lead the blind, it is not possible.
For some years back things were not as it is now, children dare not behave un-seemingly before the eyes of their parent let alone to imitate the culture of nudity that has become the trend in our society today.
You may be thinking that things has change, we are now living in a modernize world, you guess right! But tell me, is that not why we are experiencing the various forms of atrocity and the different levels and categories abomination prevalent in our society today.
Modernism and the ways children are brought up today has done more good than harm, as a result many parent are being sent to their graves by their own children. They are uncontrollable and they have no respect at all for their parent.
Things have really fallen apart. I must confess. But things can still be change for the better, parent must do all things possible to get themselves enlisted in this army of change. We must do all things possible to bring up our children rightfully and the work must start within our immediate family circle and then the larger society will be ultimately changed for the better.
The behavior and the way of life of children of nowadays is nothing to write home about, what is actually the major cause of our children who walk away half-naked on our streets today, the rudeness and the incorrigible lifestyle adopted by our children today are as a result of what? They have lost all sense of decency and respectability. All these actually emerge from our various homes. All these are borne as a result of poor training of the children by their parent and we can even see some parent indulging in such practices. The blind cannot lead the blind, it is not possible.
For some years back things were not as it is now, children dare not behave un-seemingly before the eyes of their parent let alone to imitate the culture of nudity that has become the trend in our society today.
You may be thinking that things has change, we are now living in a modernize world, you guess right! But tell me, is that not why we are experiencing the various forms of atrocity and the different levels and categories abomination prevalent in our society today.
Modernism and the ways children are brought up today has done more good than harm, as a result many parent are being sent to their graves by their own children. They are uncontrollable and they have no respect at all for their parent.
Things have really fallen apart. I must confess. But things can still be change for the better, parent must do all things possible to get themselves enlisted in this army of change. We must do all things possible to bring up our children rightfully and the work must start within our immediate family circle and then the larger society will be ultimately changed for the better.
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
The Role of mother in child training is indispensable
Motherhood is the greatest vocation in the world this tells you how serious it is. Be aware that great men in the past were once a child in the hand of their mother. Careful study of these great men reveals that they heard good mothers. As mothers we must ensure that we continuously look for ways to develop our relationship with our children. We must provide our children the necessary guidance and discipline when it s necessary for us to do so. We must endeavor to sit them down in order to find out what is really going in their mind. This is necessary because when a child reaches puberty she starts to develop and discover her identity, they go through emotional and psychological identity crisis which tends to make them to question and challenge established norms.
As such a period they begin to seek for help and direction from their parents but how do you ratify this if you are the type that has not been creating room for questions and answers, therefore you must develop a good friendship and conversation with them.
As such a period they begin to seek for help and direction from their parents but how do you ratify this if you are the type that has not been creating room for questions and answers, therefore you must develop a good friendship and conversation with them.
The Heart of a Child: A Tabular Rassa
The heart of a child is a Tabula Rassa, which means that every new born baby comes into this world with clean mind. But the heart cannot be kept empty, something must fill it up, here comes the opportunity for every parent to write the word of God into the heart of these children before the devil takes advantage of them.
The heart of the children must be trained to love the Lord wholeheartedly and must not allow their lifestyle to be influenced by the tradition of men.
Your Responsibility as a Parent
Parents must lay a firm and solid foundation for their children by;
1. Praying for them during Pregnancy
2. Scriptures should be read to the children
3. Parent can give their children names after great Bible characters e.g. Evangelist, Prayer Worrior, and Pastor.
4. Pictures of bible characters and their virtue can be placed in strategic places in the house
5. Parent should lead an exemplary life
6. Parent should endeavor to lead each child to Christ
What is Expected of Parent to teach their Children
Parent should teach their children righteous living in this polluted and wretched world. Children must be thought not to mingle themselves with the affairs of this world as such could incur God’s judgment and eternal perdition in the lake of fire.
Children need a lot of love, care and attention. Children are very inquisitive, they want to know, it is best of us as parent to proffer answers to their question, counsel and guide rather than burying ourselves into our jobs, television programmes or other thing.
Good books and pictures, good music, calendars with Christian’s pictures should fill our home to guide the child.
The heart of the children must be trained to love the Lord wholeheartedly and must not allow their lifestyle to be influenced by the tradition of men.
Your Responsibility as a Parent
Parents must lay a firm and solid foundation for their children by;
1. Praying for them during Pregnancy
2. Scriptures should be read to the children
3. Parent can give their children names after great Bible characters e.g. Evangelist, Prayer Worrior, and Pastor.
4. Pictures of bible characters and their virtue can be placed in strategic places in the house
5. Parent should lead an exemplary life
6. Parent should endeavor to lead each child to Christ
What is Expected of Parent to teach their Children
Parent should teach their children righteous living in this polluted and wretched world. Children must be thought not to mingle themselves with the affairs of this world as such could incur God’s judgment and eternal perdition in the lake of fire.
Children need a lot of love, care and attention. Children are very inquisitive, they want to know, it is best of us as parent to proffer answers to their question, counsel and guide rather than burying ourselves into our jobs, television programmes or other thing.
Good books and pictures, good music, calendars with Christian’s pictures should fill our home to guide the child.
Strategic Rules in Breading up Good Children
1. Don’t give the Child all he wants, even though it is in your reach to do so, subject him/her to a reasonable level of hardship.
2. Frown and rebuke him when you discover from him something that does not belong to him.
3. Don’t leave out spiritual training in training up your child, install in him the fear of God
4. When he litter up the floor ask him to pick them and make the environment tidy. Do not do it for him.
5. Watch out on the book he reads; make sure they don’t corrupt his mind.
6. Don’t get quarrel in the presence of your child.
7. When he get in to trouble with his neighbor or teacher don’t apologize for him let him face the punishment
8. Don’t give him all the money he needs to buy all he wants.
9. Don’t allow him always in watching TV or home video, it distract him.
10. Tell him he is wrong, when he’s wrong, correct him don’t pamper him.
1. Don’t give the Child all he wants, even though it is in your reach to do so, subject him/her to a reasonable level of hardship.
2. Frown and rebuke him when you discover from him something that does not belong to him.
3. Don’t leave out spiritual training in training up your child, install in him the fear of God
4. When he litter up the floor ask him to pick them and make the environment tidy. Do not do it for him.
5. Watch out on the book he reads; make sure they don’t corrupt his mind.
6. Don’t get quarrel in the presence of your child.
7. When he get in to trouble with his neighbor or teacher don’t apologize for him let him face the punishment
8. Don’t give him all the money he needs to buy all he wants.
9. Don’t allow him always in watching TV or home video, it distract him.
10. Tell him he is wrong, when he’s wrong, correct him don’t pamper him.
Like Begets Like
Like beget Like. There is a factor in the genes of living things that ensures that the characteristics of parent are transferred to their offspring. The same resemblance pattern goes in parent-child relationship.
Ungodly parent raise ungodly children except God work out their salvation through other means.
The same thing goes for godly parent, they raise up God fearing children if they give the salvation of their children all the attention and efforts it demands of it. Your child will definitely take after you as a parent so your lifestyle must be worthy of acceptation if you want your children own to be.
You as a parent must have a definite encounter before God and once you are saved your character is reformed, your world view is adjusted, your mind is renewed, and your life transformed it is then that you’ll be able to hold the lamb for your child to see the way of life too.
J.C. Ryle summarizes it all with this cogent exhortation: Take care, then what you do before a child.
A proverb says “Who sins before a child, sins double”
Be an example in temper, in diligence, in temperance, in humility and in God’s Word.
Ungodly parent raise ungodly children except God work out their salvation through other means.
The same thing goes for godly parent, they raise up God fearing children if they give the salvation of their children all the attention and efforts it demands of it. Your child will definitely take after you as a parent so your lifestyle must be worthy of acceptation if you want your children own to be.
You as a parent must have a definite encounter before God and once you are saved your character is reformed, your world view is adjusted, your mind is renewed, and your life transformed it is then that you’ll be able to hold the lamb for your child to see the way of life too.
J.C. Ryle summarizes it all with this cogent exhortation: Take care, then what you do before a child.
A proverb says “Who sins before a child, sins double”
Be an example in temper, in diligence, in temperance, in humility and in God’s Word.
How to Break Communication Barrier between You and Your Child
You must try and the frustration that result or emanate from children’s unwillingness to share their lives with you.
Whether tour child are toddlers or teens does not matter, there times when it is difficult for you to find out what is going on in their mind or what they’re thinking about.
Tips on how to create opportunities for your children to open and share their lives with you;
1. Do not force them to talk or express their mind.
2. Be available for them and slow down your life.
3. Engage yourself in physical that they love enjoy
4. Don’t be too judgmental because once they observe they would always be judged when they talk to you they will have no other reason to hold back.
5. Reflect on what you hear them say.
6. Converse with them while they are playing, drawing or doing and doing assignment.
7. Create room for excitement and opportunity.
8. Be a friend as well as parent to them.
9. Care for them enough and pay attention to understand them and make the necessary correction where necessary.
When you create an environment of true love, then your children would see you as their confidant, when you play with them you’ll be able to control their mind and also their behavior as a result you teach them to read social signal and learn to communicate.
When you’re friendly enough with them you develop their social skills necessary for getting along with others and also for their healthy development. It also enables you to gain access to their psyche to foster closeness, confidence and connection
Whether tour child are toddlers or teens does not matter, there times when it is difficult for you to find out what is going on in their mind or what they’re thinking about.
Tips on how to create opportunities for your children to open and share their lives with you;
1. Do not force them to talk or express their mind.
2. Be available for them and slow down your life.
3. Engage yourself in physical that they love enjoy
4. Don’t be too judgmental because once they observe they would always be judged when they talk to you they will have no other reason to hold back.
5. Reflect on what you hear them say.
6. Converse with them while they are playing, drawing or doing and doing assignment.
7. Create room for excitement and opportunity.
8. Be a friend as well as parent to them.
9. Care for them enough and pay attention to understand them and make the necessary correction where necessary.
When you create an environment of true love, then your children would see you as their confidant, when you play with them you’ll be able to control their mind and also their behavior as a result you teach them to read social signal and learn to communicate.
When you’re friendly enough with them you develop their social skills necessary for getting along with others and also for their healthy development. It also enables you to gain access to their psyche to foster closeness, confidence and connection
Establishing the Right Environment
All children desire their mothers love and hand of fellowship. In such a manner as they do to their friends. Children wish to express what is bordering them and be able to free their mind with their parent.
They want appreciation and understanding fro their parent. When a mother child relationship is created, it creates room for trust and confidence.
Ask your children question frequently for meaningful interaction. A typical answers to the question such as “how was your day” should be “Good” and “Fine”. It is expected of you to ask an open ended question than close ended questions that could result in one word answer. Your question should motivate your child to think and reason rather than general questions.
Let your child be aware that you are interested in his/ her life, it is very important.
You can even ask your child tough questions like “How do you feel about our family?” so as to know how he feels and think. Make effort on daily basis to spend few minutes in order to know your child better. It’s necessary.
Develop a good listening habit as a parent and speak less. Allow your child to control the interaction and allow him/ her to ask question and proffer solution without being judgmental.
When you’re a good listener you will know how he/she feels then give him the necessary information and advice.
They want appreciation and understanding fro their parent. When a mother child relationship is created, it creates room for trust and confidence.
Ask your children question frequently for meaningful interaction. A typical answers to the question such as “how was your day” should be “Good” and “Fine”. It is expected of you to ask an open ended question than close ended questions that could result in one word answer. Your question should motivate your child to think and reason rather than general questions.
Let your child be aware that you are interested in his/ her life, it is very important.
You can even ask your child tough questions like “How do you feel about our family?” so as to know how he feels and think. Make effort on daily basis to spend few minutes in order to know your child better. It’s necessary.
Develop a good listening habit as a parent and speak less. Allow your child to control the interaction and allow him/ her to ask question and proffer solution without being judgmental.
When you’re a good listener you will know how he/she feels then give him the necessary information and advice.
Children Peculiarities: A Proper Perception
You must know that every child is different from all others. No one child is exact replica of another, even identical twins differ in some natural ways. You must design and deploy your child training with his peculiarity and this is achieved through prayer, in-depth study of his temperament, and other trait that are peculiar to him.
After you have known the attributes and peculiarities of your child, you’ll need to pray further in order to plan the programmes of your child training and to successfully implement it.
In training up your child you must do the following;
1. Subdue self-will
2. Teach the child to pray as soon as he can speak
3. Give the child nothing he cries for and only what is good for him if he ask for it.
4. Commend and reward good behavior.
5. In order to prevent lying punish no fault which is confess freely but never allow a rebellious and sinful act to go unnoticed
6. Strictly observe all the promises you have made to the child.
After you have known the attributes and peculiarities of your child, you’ll need to pray further in order to plan the programmes of your child training and to successfully implement it.
In training up your child you must do the following;
1. Subdue self-will
2. Teach the child to pray as soon as he can speak
3. Give the child nothing he cries for and only what is good for him if he ask for it.
4. Commend and reward good behavior.
5. In order to prevent lying punish no fault which is confess freely but never allow a rebellious and sinful act to go unnoticed
6. Strictly observe all the promises you have made to the child.
Basic Principle in Child Training
Principle 1: Model the virtue you are trying to imbibe in your child, if your child, if you want your child to be faithful, holy, industrious, respectful, loving, model these virtues before him or her. Don’t be hypocritical.
Principle 2: Know your child by observing and listening to him, adopt different methods in training up your children because no two children are the same though born from the same mother and father, there is need for you to guide the make-up of the child so as to guide him and teach him aright.
Principle 3: Carry out the training of your children diligently not half-heartedly. Children up your child half-heartedly will not fully prepare him to face the challenge in a world system that capture the mind and thought of men especially he young ones. Teach him how to avoid worldly music, pornography and bad books, teach him how to enhance and uplift integrity, honesty in their various choice of career.
Principle 4: Train him how to think for himself and think aright so as not to be deceived by deceivers, allow him to ask questions on your stand concerning an issue and be ready to explain vividly questions that bothers his mind.
Principle 5: Don’t leave the training of your child to school teachers and churches. Be ready to give the necessary training at home because home is the central place for the training of your child. Talk to them when they sit down, lie down, wake up or walk along the road. The various occurrences that take place at home give numerous opportunities for the upbringing and instruction of your child.
Principle 2: Know your child by observing and listening to him, adopt different methods in training up your children because no two children are the same though born from the same mother and father, there is need for you to guide the make-up of the child so as to guide him and teach him aright.
Principle 3: Carry out the training of your children diligently not half-heartedly. Children up your child half-heartedly will not fully prepare him to face the challenge in a world system that capture the mind and thought of men especially he young ones. Teach him how to avoid worldly music, pornography and bad books, teach him how to enhance and uplift integrity, honesty in their various choice of career.
Principle 4: Train him how to think for himself and think aright so as not to be deceived by deceivers, allow him to ask questions on your stand concerning an issue and be ready to explain vividly questions that bothers his mind.
Principle 5: Don’t leave the training of your child to school teachers and churches. Be ready to give the necessary training at home because home is the central place for the training of your child. Talk to them when they sit down, lie down, wake up or walk along the road. The various occurrences that take place at home give numerous opportunities for the upbringing and instruction of your child.
A Quiver Full and Flourishing
The number of children you gave birth to is not what makes the quiver full but the quality of their lives. When you desire to build up a quiver full of worthwhile arrows, that will demands diligence, carefulness and the spirit of God’s directives.
AS a parent you must be fully equipped and committed to contending with the devil’s ever renewed onslaught against your children. Such commitment may involve giving up your Job in order to stay with your children. I guess you said how do I get money to take care of them, but money is not everything or is it?
Of course NO! When you allow the training of your children to take priority you’re your career then you are bound to reap a harvest of love and appreciation from them at the closing years of your life.
Teach your child to look up above the clouds of war and evil and look up to Jesus always.
As a wise mother teach your children how to eat by eating with them, sing with them that they may know what song to sing; learn to cry and laugh with them so as to teach them how to share grief and joy with others. Go places with them so that they will know where to go and not to go.
Deal with them in love, simplicity, and gentleness and these other Godly virtues are sure to infect them.
Always remember you’re making your investment you’ll reap them one day.
Start effort now in order to make your quiver full and flouring.
AS a parent you must be fully equipped and committed to contending with the devil’s ever renewed onslaught against your children. Such commitment may involve giving up your Job in order to stay with your children. I guess you said how do I get money to take care of them, but money is not everything or is it?
Of course NO! When you allow the training of your children to take priority you’re your career then you are bound to reap a harvest of love and appreciation from them at the closing years of your life.
Teach your child to look up above the clouds of war and evil and look up to Jesus always.
As a wise mother teach your children how to eat by eating with them, sing with them that they may know what song to sing; learn to cry and laugh with them so as to teach them how to share grief and joy with others. Go places with them so that they will know where to go and not to go.
Deal with them in love, simplicity, and gentleness and these other Godly virtues are sure to infect them.
Always remember you’re making your investment you’ll reap them one day.
Start effort now in order to make your quiver full and flouring.
A Good Communication
Good act of communication is essential in training up your child. In communicating with your child observe to do the following;
1. Do not nag about any issue between you and your child.
2. Terminate sarcastic comments which serve only to alienate further.
3. Go for an occasional face-to-face confrontation rather than indulge in a series of gibes or bursts of heated discussion.
4. Praise your child, though it may be difficult to find anything you can praise in the child, this will build bridges between you and will take some of the wind out of his souls
5. Talk normally even if there is no response or you feel rejected.
6. Let your child know the parameter within which to operate and, outside of which can result to discipline.
More importantly, consistent and unconditional love with prayer of faith will definitely bring down the desired miracle.
As a parent you’ll need to be available for your children because raising up a child requires quality time. Discipline, prayer and love indispensable in child training.
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